Goodness is the totality of who we are, warts and all. No matter what we do or don’t do, we will always be “good.” Goodness is the beautiful mosaic of what constitutes our humanity. Nothing will change the fact that we are valuable and worthy.
What does goodness mean to you?
Growing up, I equated goodness with kindness, playing “nice,” and doing the right thing. Today thanks to the work I do, I have a much more expansive view of what goodness is. As a Life Coach, my work affords me the privilege of getting to know people from the inside out. I get to see their values, hopes, achievements, and dreams, along with the messes, their strengths and their struggles. This has allowed me to truly appreciate the goodness inherent in us all. Goodness is the totality of who we are, warts and all. No matter what we do or don’t do, we will always be “good.” Goodness is the beautiful mosaic of what constitutes our humanity. Nothing will change the fact that we are valuable and worthy. We are all Divine beings here to serve a greater purpose.
Where do you find goodness?
I find goodness in people. People are fantastic! But I have learned from personal experience that to truly see all the goodness others have to offer, we have to first recognize it within ourselves. We have to practice seeing ourselves with unconditional love. Our ability to bring more goodness into the world is contingent on how much we value and appreciate ourselves on any given day. That means our “not so good days” too! If we can practice acceptance and forgiveness when we let ourselves or others down, we open up a space of understanding for others when they too are having a bad day. We don’t have to take other people’s actions so personally because we get it. We know they are not bad because we know we are not bad. Giving someone a pass because we recognize our own humanity in them connects us all. Without shame and blame, the goodness in all of us has a greater opportunity to flourish and grow.
Make it a point to highlight the things you can appreciate and enjoy, very often the small things, you can be grateful for each day.
What are some of the ways that we can become aware of the goodness in our lives?
Look for it always! Admittedly, that is not always so easy. Our brains have a negativity bias which has us on the constant lookout for what is wrong in our lives. Therefore, we have to work harder to see the good around us. The first requirement is that we get skillful at identifying where we place our focus each day. Are we seeking out bad news, focusing on people’s faults or continuously grumbling about what’s not going right in our lives? If we are, we are shoring up a negative mindset which will undoubtedly prevent us from spotting the goodness that is very often a part of our day. Make it a point to highlight the things you can appreciate and enjoy, very often the small things, you can be grateful for each day. Goodness comes in many forms; we just need to be open enough to see it. We need to develop new eyes to take in the beauty of the outer world as well as make a conscious effort to grow those places within that bring us joy. Lastly, I believe we have to give up waiting for goodness to come from others. If we want to experience more goodness in the world, we have to demonstrate it in our lives. As Mahatma Gandhi said “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
@alicecheralifecoaching: "We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson