Growing up, I worried about everything under the sun.
Thankfully somewhere along the way I realized that it wasn’t working. Which left me pondering, could it be that our natural inclination to worry, may not actually improve any situation?
What I’ve learned is that it is important to notice when we are worrying, and then to make a choice, to continue “rocking” or to get off (clearly the harder choice) and come up with ideas that could possibly improve the worrying situation. It redirects our “caring” energy away from worry and towards something more productive.
I’ve had times where I had to say to myself: I know I shouldn’t worry, but I’m worried, and right now I just need to be worried for a few minutes. But still it was a choice, which took me away from being a slave to my worry.
If the person we are worried about is someone else, when we stop worrying
we open up to the possibility of, being totally there for them, in that very moment. When the subject is ourselves, it’s the same. We can be there for ourselves, support ourselves, and practice self love.
One thing I just wanted to add: The words "Don't Worry" can be very annoying/upsetting to the person they are told to. It's usually the last thing anyone wants to hear. So instead, try this: "I see your worried, why don't you _______?" Which gives them/yourself an action to direct their care and concentration towards.